did not come to be served,
but to serve, and to give
his life as a ransom for many.”
Tim Tebow commented in Vogue magazine that he wants a wife with “a servant’s heart.” Of course, he wants a beautiful woman, but he also has high standards of character and integrity that are even more important. The qualities of a Godly woman and good wife were modeled by his mother and sisters, and Tim Tebow learned early on that Biblical principles are the best foundation for a marriage relationship.
Naturally, people had a problem with that.
A feminist website, ironically called Jezebel, claimed that Tebow’s description means he wants a woman who is “hot, kind and servile.” And, that’s just one blog; numerous others equate having a servant’s heart with being servile, meek and docile. Leslie Bennetts’ The Feminine Mistake: Are We Giving Up Too Much? describes with condescension anyone who chooses to drop out of the workforce or scale back their work hours when their children are infants. As Dr. Janice Shaw Crouse, the senior fellow at the Beverly LaHaye Institute at Concerned Women for America, says, “The most disturbing thing about Bennetts’ book is her disdain for women who choose to be stay-at-home moms or to drop off the career fast track.”
Like numerous other feminists, Bennetts pictures men as uniformly unreliable jerks, and Dr. Crouse notes that she “ignores the fact that women can have different values and different perspectives.” Bennetts doesn’t see it that way. She writes, “Anyone who ignores or dismisses financial concerns when considering love and marriage is stupid; anyone whose top priorities are not career and financial security is even more stupid.”
We’ve had decades of secularists and feminists sending messages with their values to young women. The result: an STD pandemic, increased sexual assaults, unprecedented promiscuity, the lowest rates of marriage in history and continued high rates of divorce.
In contrast to the prevalent secular advice to young men and women, Biblical parameters for couples’ relationships are based on each individual having a “servant’s heart” modeled after Jesus, who — even though He was the Son of God — took on the very nature of a servant. Philippians 2:5-8 states: “In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to death-even death on a cross!”
As a young Christian woman, I don’t understand critics attacking Tim Tebow, or anyone else for that matter, and calling them “profane” when they talk about wanting to have a “servant’s heart.” Being a “servant,” in the Biblical sense, isn’t a bad thing; it’s actually what Christians should strive to be. Jesus came to serve; that was His purpose in coming to earth as a mere human. As believers, we, too, are told to serve. When I finally meet the man God created for me, I don’t want him to be focused on himself and what he wants; I don’t know anyone who’s looking for someone who’s self-centered and oblivious to the needs of others. Relationships soon wither under selfish and self-centered attitudes and behavior.
Jesus washed the feet of His disciples. He healed the sick and brought the dead to life. He calmed the seas and cast demons from the oppressed. Jesus was whipped, spit on and crucified. Even though Jesus was fully God, we too often forget that He was also fully human. He got tired; He got hungry and thirsty; He also felt pain, but He never stopped serving.
Each of us is blessed with various talents. 1 Peter 4:10-11 says “As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace: whoever speaks, as one who speaks oracles of God; whoever serves, as one who serves by the strength that God supplies-in order that in everything God may be glorified through Jesus Christ. To him belong glory and dominion forever and ever. Amen.” This is a command, not just a suggestion. And, it’s not just for women. This is what God requires from us all. Serving is how we love others through our actions.
Tim Tebow knows what he’s looking for. He knows how a Christian acts. As believers, serving should be our focus and priority; that’s the attitude that should characterize Christians and permeate our relationships with others.
Only do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh,
but through love serve one another.
For the whole law is fulfilled in one word:
‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’”